A Soul o Life

A journey of healing and self-discovery in the aftermath of losing my husband. I'm now seeing light at the end of the tunnel, and turning lemons into lemonade.

A Year of Lessons


364 days ago life as I knew it changed forever. On February 25, 2012 I lost my husband, my partner, my best friend. Tomorrow will be the first anniversary of his passing, and a very sad and difficult day. But today… today I will focus on the many wonderful years we had together and the important lessons that this year has taught me. I hope some of these lessons might help one of you along your journey.

Be brave. Even your darkest night will end and the sun will rise again. Trust me, it’s been happening since the beginning of time. Being brave doesn’t mean you aren’t afraid, it’s moving forward despite your fear. Nothing in this world is permanent, not even our troubles. So chin up, buttercup. Look that adversity straight in the eye. You got this.

Have hope. High hopes. High in the sky hopes. Whatever your situation, believe that every little thing’s gonna be alright. Don’t worry about what may go wrong, believe in what will go right. Just when the caterpillar thought her world was over she became a beautiful butterfly. So hold onto hope. Because in all things it is better to hope than to despair.

Forgive. It is the key to your own happiness. You will never lead a truly happy life with an unforgiving heart. Set yourself and others free by forgiving them and yourself every for hurt, every misdeed. Holding onto anger or resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It doesn’t work that way. You simply gotta forgive and then let it go.

Don’t sweat the small stuff. Seriously. Don’t let frustration, worry or anger steal your joy… not for a day, not for a moment. When you feel like screaming take a deep cleansing breath and move on. Life is short – sometimes very short – and there is just no time for all this fussing and fighting, my friends.

Be kind. How we treat another person says nothing about the other person, but says everything about ourselves. You see, kindness is like karma. The more you show to others, the more kindness (and gladness) you feel in your heart. Like the song says, in the end, only kindness matters.

Surround yourself with people who love you, motivate you, encourage you, inspire you, enhance you, make you happy and who want to be a part of your life. Let the others go. It’s okay to do that. You may someday find that you are the person who is let go. And though that will be hard – even painful, it will eventually be okay. Because someone doesn’t have to be in your life to be in your heart.

And finally, but most importantly… choose happiness. Go to sleep each night with a grateful heart. Wake up each morning with a positive attitude. Face the world with a smile. Be optimistic about the future. Believe in all the wonderful possibilities that lie ahead of you. Be happy. And remember, life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful.

So that’s what the last 364 days have taught me. In honor of my late husband… and in tribute to the life we shared together, today I will try not
to cry because it is over. Today I will smile because I was so lucky that it happened at all.

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